Friday, December 27, 2013

Its Been A While so let me let you in on what I've learned.

Its been a while since I have posted anything on here.  Mostly because I went through a stage of not knowing what to write then getting busy with work and life etc.  Back in August of 2012 my husband and I lost his Aunt.  It was devastating to all of us but we held on and got through it.  Then in November 2012 we lost my grandpa.  We weren't real close with grandpa anymore but it was still hard.  In February of this year we bought some land and have had a mobile put out there for my husbands parents.  We have another mobile we are having put out there for us and my mom until we either get our house built or find her one.  In July this year 1 day shy of 11 months that my husbands aunt passed my dad passed.  We moved in with mom to help her for a month or two and just decided to stay until after the holidays.  I about lost my best friend in a car accident.  She was riding with a drunk driver and he wrecked the car.  They had to use the jaws of life to get her out.  She had a major tear in her aorta and was in critical condition for a while there.  This year hasn't been all bad though!  We have boomed with our business.  I have a precious new niece.  My friend pulled through and is back home with her 4 children.  I am closer with my momma than I have ever been.  So you see its not been a completely bad year.  My husband wanted to do his best to make this a good Christmas for all of us since we had been through so much and he did.  He went above and beyond. I have the best husband for me.  Like I said in the title, I'm going to let you in on what I have learned. 

1.  Family is NOT just blood.  Family is what you make it.  Since my husbands aunt has been gone her husband (married into the family) has been to more of my family events.  He is just like a second dad to me and was there for me more than anybody else when my dad passed. 

2.  Nobody knows how much time they have left.  Its not written in stone so make sure you make the most of every day.

3.  Get right with that person that you have issues with.  Especially if its a close loved one.  You never know when you might loose that loved one and you won't have the chance to get right.  I was fortunate enough to let me dad know exactly how I felt and how much I love him. 

4.  Take it all in.  The good times and the bad.  It will make you stronger.

5.  God never gives you more than what you can handle.  And Ive found myself saying he must think I'm a body builder or something but I know I will get through it. 

6.  Just be yourself.  No matter what just be yourself. 

7.  Don't make changes in your life unless you are the one that wants them.  This goes back to #6. 

8.  Don't forget what's important.  You can have all the money in the world but you can't take it with you.  Don't get so caught up in life that you forget your family and friends.

9.  Cherish your loved ones even if you do have to care for them when they're sick.  I know its hard but when they are that ill they don't want you to have to do it as much if not more than you don't want to do it.  Be patient.  You might be in they're shoes one day.  Like I said we can't plan what's going to happen to us. 

10.  Its been a long road and its going to continue to be a long road but I know that no matter how tough it gets it could always get worse so don't take it for granted. 

Well I guess that's my words of wisdom.  I will try to be a more proficient blogger but it probably won't happen.  Just don't take life to seriously, live it while you can. 

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